From loss to legacy: What Is Your Story Going to Be?


Greetings Reader,

This month has been heavy for us, with the passing of many including actress Diane Keaton. The passing of singer D’Angelo hit me in ways I didn’t expect. He was just one year younger than my maternal grandfather who also passed away from pancreatic cancer, and so many of his photos carried that same Aquarian energy I’ve always felt in my cousin, the one that my mom said most resembles her father.

Grief has been a constant companion in my story. I've outlived other children who had the same type of eye cancer that I have. In just a 15-month span, I lost my uncle, my sister, and my father. Each loss left cracks that reshaped the way I look at family, love, and legacy. There's a quote I saw online that said, "I’ve seen the coffin close on my loved one and I have not been the same."

And when I often ask my See Life Different podcast guests, “What do you want your legacy to be?” — whether or not they have assets and material things to pass on to someone — this is what I really mean. Legacy is about impact, healing, and presence.

Family dynamics are complicated. In 2017, data from the US Census revealed that 61% of African American children lived in blended or stepfamily households. I’m sure that number has only grown. I know it personally: I have two living half-siblings. My brother’s children—my nieces and nephew—are also navigating life with stepparents. Even my father himself came from a blended family. These shifting structures don’t weaken us; they ask us to find new ways of connecting and honoring what family really means to you.

And yet, through grief and shifting family landscapes, I’ve still found light in holding space for others. I am light, as that is the meaning of my middle name, Nayyar. We don’t choose the hand we’re dealt, but we can choose how to transform it into something that heals us and inspires others when we pause, reflect, and create together. As you walk into quarter four, take the time to uncover a deeper resilience that no statistic can capture.

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With resilience and love, Zaakirah

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Your Branding and Marketing Therapist

Hi! I'm Zaakirah (zaa-key-ra) I help you Go from where you are (stuck, stagnant, scared) and where you want to go in your business and life (freedom). I provide Black and Indigenous creatives with strategies that empower them to achieve their goals through branding and storytelling, and marketing.For the last 20 years, I've been storytelling by any creative means necessary; photography, writing, film, and podcasting.I check all the Diversity, Equity, Inclusion, and Accessibility boxes.I’m a visually impaired, hard of hearing, cancer survivor, chronically ill Muslim Woman. Knowing your history helps you propel and prepare for your future. Entrepreneurship is ownership, and flexibility is key. Sign up for my semi-weekly newsletter!

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